Feminine Awareness – How to feel sensually empowered (Part II)

Relationship & Intimacy coach Nathalie Sommer gives her expert advice on how to feel empowered in your feminine….

Polarity – The masculine & the feminine

It can get a little tricky to wrap your mind around this, so stay with me. We all have masculine and feminine energy inside of us, regardless of gender. It’s important that we can switch between both so we can live loving, productive and inspiring lives. 

Let’s take look at this a bit more closely so you can understand what I mean:

Masculine energy: This is your DO energy. You’re using your masculine energy when you’re striving, planning and focusing. It’s the energy that gets stuff done.

Feminine energy: This is your FEELING energy. It’s when you’re, surrendering, flowing and feeling. You become an embodiment of pleasure, love and beauty. Your feminine energy can also be quite wild, powerful and chaotic.

We feel at perfect harmony when we have these two at balance within us.

How does this affect us and our relationships?

Although this is not always the case, generally one partner has a preferred energy. For women, it can be the feminine and for men the masculine energy. Again, this is not the case for everyone. The good times usually happen when each person gets to spend most of the time in their preferred energy; it creates polarity and both people feel supported. The feminine can bring more love into the relationship, and the masculine can bring safety and direction. I can already hear you saying – hang on, I’m an independent person and I’m okay with doing things myself. And that’s when it can create obstacles. A lot of us are not getting a good chunk of time in our feminine energy. We are stuck or forced to stay in our masculine, and it’s hard to switch into the feminine energy, which begins to wreak havoc in our relationship. When we are stuck in our masculine all the time, we become tired and drained. It means we are giving way too much and not receiving enough in return. Are you guilty of that? I know I’ve been there! 

What happens is that we become irritable, harden, shut down and disconnect. When both partners start to channel the same energy and there is no flow between the masculine and feminine, this creates polarity. This leads to imbalances in the relationship and in the intimacy department and can cause a loss of connection. Not great, right?! This can also happen when both partners spend too much time on their feminine energy. We need polarity to create harmony and balance, and to keep the passion alive.

 So how can we embody more feminine energy? 

 

Well, it depends on you. What do you need and desire to come back into your body, so you can come out of responsibility and into receptivity? What allows you to let go, relax and switch from doing to being? For some women, it means letting go of controlling every little thing. Let the mask come down and allow your full and authentic expression to be seen. Maybe you need more sensual pleasure. Take time to foster a deep connection with your partner without a goal; strive for more movement or more creativity and less structure. It could be as simple as letting your partner take charge sometimes and refusing to make all the decisions. Ask yourself what fills you up and brings you joy and pleasure. That’s a great place to start. Why not get started with this now and move more into your feminine energy. Allow yourself to soften and to receive and empower your partner to be in their masculine and see what changes.

The same applies for people in a same sex relationship. The key is to find the balance within yourself and also in the relationship. 

Tantra and feminine awareness

Let’s talk Tantra and why this offers you nuggets of wisdom for the women of today and modern relationships. Basically, Tantra is a pathway that promotes living with awareness and mindfulness. We often think of Tantra as a way of practicing sex. Yes, it is that, but it’s also so much more. It’s about how you love, work and play in this world. So what can we take from this wise practice to help with feminine awareness and our relationships? Well, a lot. 

Here are some of the principles:

Loving all that is: It celebrates and welcomes the bad, the good, and the brilliant parts of life. It’s basically one big YES to life. The same goes when it comes to relationships. They are seen as a beautiful and divine union; each person can be their full, authentic self and are met with love and acceptance. Understanding is shown through all the relationships and individual stages. Even challenging times should be viewed as an opportunity for growth, development and deeper connection. I want you to know that I’m not talking about acceptance of abuse. Rather, if one person goes through a challenging time, be there for them and accept all their flaws.

Sex as an opening to something more significant:

Sex becomes more about deep loving rather than just a quick fix of pleasure. Yes, the orgasms are amaaaazing! But it’s also about the internal transformation that happens along the way. Tantra is so powerful because of its deeper connection with yourself, the other and the universe. Want to find out what our love and intimacy language is? Take the quiz here.

Reverence: 

Let’s talk about respect but revved up. When reverence flows freely in a relationship, it will change so many things: how we deal with conflict, respect boundaries, make time for one another, view the overall relationship and have sex. Why? Because it’s all seen as divine.

There are many more, but bringing some of these tantric principles into your life will help you feel more connected to your feminine essence and create a more loving relationship with yourself and the people around you.

About the author:
Nathalie Sommer is a certified Relationship & Intimacy Coach, Women’s Transformational Coach, speaker and international workshop facilitator. Through her communities, 1:1 + group coaching, speaking and events.
Nathalie is supporting and transforming women’s and couples relationships and lives from around the globe, helping them to create powerful transformations through sensual feminine embodiment, relationship & intimacy work.
You can follow her work via https://www.instagram.com/nata.sommer/ on Instagram and join her lively Eros Temple For Modern Women Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1835416650102332/   for intimate chats all about relationships, pleasure and sex. You can also visit her website to find out more about her services http://nathaliesommer.com/, or take Nathalie’s Eros Archetype Quiz http://nathaliesommer.com/quiz/

• feminine awareness
• feminine energy
• intimacy
• masculine energy
• polarity
• relationship