Coaching is not “Getting advice to have something fixed”

It’s a human trait of character: once we are pushed out of our comfort zone (be it on a body, mind, or soul level), we want to have “that thing fixed”.

Referring to the pace of change in this age of humanity: please most effectively, quickly, painlessly, cheaply, and possibly online.

If nature acted with such immediacy, not allowing for gradual evolution, humanity would have vanished a long time ago. Nature is growing and resting in cycles – there’s no such thing like “scaling your potential to the max every day”. Approaching our problems this way isn’t really helpful and is a large source of frustration.

Each individual possesses his or her own story – over generations – their own resources, challenges and way of looking at them. That’s why coaching needs time, motivation, patience – it’s a process oriented method.

Use that list – buy that tool

People usually tend to buy things that are attributed with “easy”, “quick” and “effective”. I really don’t believe in coaching by “at the push of a button.”

I can guarantee you as well that no coach will be able “to solve your problem” or “fix it”. You are not a broken jar and you don’t need glue.

Referring to nature:  there are changing seasons; if you don’t sow in spring, how can you expect a harvest in autumn?

My three key questions for readers:

• Are you ready to start a coaching process?Regarding: time, money, energy – readiness to invest in yourself, to summarize it?
• What’s your honest (!) intrinsic motivation for coaching sessions?Are you looking for a deeper understanding? Just somebody to talk to? Self-love in sense of: I give myself the chance to learn, understand and cope better with situations which are draining energy?
• Which realistic goal are you aiming to achieve?How long did you “arrange” yourself with the problem concerned and what’s a fair time span to understand, integrate and implement the solutions in your everyday life? Do you want to see results “as quickly as possible” or results which are “sustainable”?

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About the Author:

Cécile Schniter has a coaching praxis on the lake of Zurich. Coaching sessions are exclusively offered in German.

Head: Unconventional, analytical thinker | Heart: strong, empathic | Roots: 2 decades of business and leadership experience

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• being fixed
• coaching
• coaching motivation
• nature