Career & Entrepreneurship
Why being an entrepreneur challenges how you love yourself
Never in my life I had been confronted that much and on a regular basis with my self-love/ self-worth as when I started my path as an entrepreneur.
Let me explain you my personal experience.
The imposter syndrome is directly linked to how much you love yourself.
Who I am to do this?
There are hundreds of coaches or business women doing exactly the same thing as me, what can I bring more out in this world?
How can I call myself expert in love? I still struggle in my relationship sometimes?
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The Imposter syndrome was such a big issue for me, but I started blogging about other coaches and therapists before I dared to speak my own Vision on personal development and coaching. It is not that I lack so much of self-confidence, but I need it to reach the next level. And every time I reach another level in my business, it reaches me like a wave.
What personally helped me to break through this imposter syndrome was to build my self- confidence based on facts and results:
How many persons resonate with my articles?
How many clients have results from my coaching?
Each time I allow myself to reduce my expectation to this: if my truth can help one person a day, it is enough.
And each time I need a boost, I remember the quote of Marie Forleo “The world needs the
special gift that only you have”.
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Fixing my prices was a monetary evaluation of my own worth. Asking CHF 2500 for 4 months coaching on love relationship was not easy at the beginning.
And it reflected in the hesitation of my customers: the price is high, it & is too much for me, I prefer to choose therapists that my health insurance reimburses, can we do less than 4 months coaching?
I realized that I needed to fix this inside me, so it would have a different outcome in my business. I first honestly asked myself what was necessary to do, so my clients would have results. And the way I built my four-months coaching was really the best method to get results from my point of view. It gave me confidence that my offer was right.
I just needed a little push on my self-worth. I was confident but not to the level to ask this amount of money. So I applied the psycho-body approach which I use to change the love patterns, to accept more abundance in my life and the results came straight away: I was fully booked and no customer even discussed my price point.
Work-life balance is all about self-love
As a coach I love to help people, so it was for me difficult to set healthy boundaries and to ensure a good work-life balance for myself. I was answering emails on weekends and evenings or when I had a day off with my son.
I am so passionate by what I do, I thus found it more difficult to set boundaries as when I was employee, because it doesn´t feel like working.
I realized this fact, but underneath office work it was also a self-love issue, for I had the tendency to prioritize everything else and raise it above me: my clients, my work, my family, my obligations.
What helped me to change this pattern is the quote of Gabby Bernstein:
“Your well-being is the first priority in your business”
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And truth is: the more I apply this quote, the more successful is my business. These are my rules to run my business now (and believe me, I still struggle to apply them all the time):
Stop to work if I am tired. The work I do with a low level of energy will bring me low level result.
Plan my self-care as any other appointment.
If unplanned obligation comes I compensate in the same week.
My next goal is to implement the miracle morning, so I start the day with self-care. I plan to buy the 5 a.m.Club book from Robin Sharma to motivate myself.
My gift to you This self-love meditation I registered is a big helper to start growing your self-worth (and
hopefully your business!).
Listen to it 40 days in a row and let me know the results!
Featured photo Photo by David Lezcano on Unsplash
About the author:
Sandy Kaufmann is a Love coach (certified life coach and etio-psychology-therapist) based in Zürich working mainly online. She is French and speak German, English and Spanish. Her passion is to accompany women to regain their serenity and for them to be happier with themselves and in their relationships. She uses a psycho-physical approach allowing you to work on your love patterns. Her other passions are travelling and lately kundalini yoga. More infos on her website and IG page.
